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Question: 3 wedding showers for the same bride-to-be ?

(Posted by: ♥Lucky♥ on 2008-05-22 07:20:06)

. I was invited to 3 separate bridal showers for the same woman (she is a relative on my husband's side). What is the rule of etiquette as far as bringing a gift to each shower?

Posted by: sknymnie on 2008-05-22, 07:34:13

Unless you are in the wedding party, then you are not obligated to attend all 3 showers.

Posted by: next? on 2008-05-22, 07:24:46

Three small (very small) gifts or one really good one; personally I would attend ONE shower, three is a bit excessive.

Posted by: vperez190 on 2008-05-22, 07:27:28

Well I see that you are expecting another child (congratulations), usually there is only one bridal shower for a bride (unless family members from each side want to give separate showers and friends want to give a shower as well). In this case you don't have to attend all three bridal showers you should only rsvp to one shower, inviting you to all three showers is just being greedy. Each event should have different guests and people should not be asked to attend all three and if you attend all three you only have to buy one gift.

Posted by: emma s on 2008-05-22, 07:28:05

If she knows you are invited to all 3 showers, than give her some cash, and let her decided what she needs for the wedding, or for their honeymoon. Than don't get anything else since you already did give her something. She should understand, you're not made out of money, or rich. Just show up, and support her.

Posted by: lizardmomma on 2008-05-22, 07:28:37

Are you kidding 3 showers?

Posted by: kclightman on 2008-05-22, 07:31:04

Gifts are gracious, but never obligatory. That's called an entrance fee. Although we all know that brides expect gifts, in fact no one ever is supposed to expect or demand them. Attend one and bring a gift. If you attend the others, I would not bring gifts to those. But if she is really this greedy, she might take offense at not getting enough loot from you if you show up, so I think the safe thing is to just attend one. Be busy on the other days. Yeesh.

Posted by: dirt on 2008-05-22, 07:35:53

Family is family, but 3 showers is a bit much, if you want to attend all 3 < > < > < > buy 3 smaller gifts or < > < > < get 3 gift cards, i wud like to attend all 3 if my work sech. and home sech fit it if not id go to just one... its the social factor for me... good luck ~!! p.s. your not alone in this boat most of the guests are getting the same invites...

Posted by: Linda G on 2008-05-22, 07:36:41

Just go to one. Three is absolutely ridiculous or else the bride to be is very greedy.

Posted by: Barbara B on 2008-05-22, 07:43:59

My, my. What a greedy bride – or what disorganized party planners. But what the heck… Either attend the one shower of your choice, bearing one decent gift from her registry; or attend all 3, bringing to each one very modest gift from her registry. Remember, a shower gift – also counts as the WEDDING gift. You don’t have to gift a bridal couple twice.

Posted by: robin d on 2008-05-22, 07:50:59

1 gift! thats it! Now I have been invited to lingerie showers before and I might be inclined to give a small gift cert also for that, but 1 standard gift, thats it. anything else expected is just greedy.

Posted by: nikita on 2008-05-22, 08:06:53

Attend only one and say thanks but no thanks to the other 2.

Posted by: Nic C on 2008-05-22, 08:12:19

The only way I can see having 3 separate showers is if you invite different people to each one, such as one for co-workers, one for family, one for friends. I would only go to one of them if I was you.

Posted by: ♪♥HappyMommy♥♪ on 2008-05-22, 08:18:07

You don't have to attend all 3 of them. Don't feel obligated. But this is crazy - to have 3 showers. I don't mean to be critical but she may be greedy to get MORE gifts. She won't tell you but it may be the case. LOL

Posted by: sammom on 2008-05-22, 08:40:36

May be this bride is not being greedy but people organizing the bridal shower just want to show how much they care about her ( or just show off) and are organizing more than one event. May be they think you are a very close relative who should be invited to all the events. I would suggest that if your schedule permits then attend all the events but take one decent gift ( not necessarily very expensive) to just one bridal shower. If someone asks , just say I already gave her this gift . If you are not comfortable about attending all the events then attend just one. Enjoy these parties without guilt!!