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Question: How do you feel about wedding showers, baby showers, housewarming parties?

(Posted by: hmm on 2008-03-28 12:38:52)

Lol, just wondering. It seems like my wedding shower was just a day ago but it must have been at least two years ago now. I wonder if someone will throw me a baby shower, I felt like a bit of a moocher at my wedding shower, actually. Yea, I guess they're not all bad. We had fun anyway.

Posted by: karen star on 2008-03-28, 13:02:47

I moved a lot and didn't live around family. It seemed I was always in the process of making "new " friends, so I never had a baby shower or housewarming or wedding shower until I'd worked one place for several years, and they gave me a baby shower for that "late-in-life surprise " who is now 10. I was a little uncomfortable with the idea, since I knew my own finances were strong at that point, but my coworkers were so insistent, generous and kind that I was really humbled. I took a great deal of time to write out personal specific thank you notes for everyone who participated, and it was possibly one of the warmest and most affirming events I've ever been privileged to enjoy. I've attended a few, though, back in the days when finances were tight, when I thought my gifts were being judged as not quite up to the honoree's expectations. Perhaps those feelings were in me, not in the receivers. One young professional couple lived together for nearly 6 years before they tied the knot, purchased a really wonderful house together, and furnished it fully and tastefully long before the wedding. I thought the shower inviting relatives who were not nearly of the means of the couple themselves was handled in a somewhat tacky manner. They had a separate shower from co-workers and their own circle of friends, and the bride made a point of showing off some of the gifts from that shower at the second "family " shower. However, the chance to get together and celebrate was still valuable. I never mind giving a gift, but I don't think it is some sort of tragedy if people are left to their own devices, especially if they have already had several children, marriages, or homes. Edit - Let me change that last sentence. Every child is worth celebrating. Bring on the baby showers.

Posted by: cinnea on 2008-03-28, 12:44:54

Showers and parties are wonderful things when they are special occasions and not just excuses for presents. The person giving the party should make it clear that warm wishes or small, personal gifts are just as welcome as appliances or furniture, and the person registering should keep the giver in mind and not go wild.

Posted by: Peachy Keen, Jelly Bean on 2008-03-28, 12:47:46

I love any sort of party really! I guess my favorite thing about them is getting together with friends and family to socialize and catch up. I also love giving gifts. I'm kind of a theme-nut so i love "dressing up " gifts with pretty paper and ribbons = D.

Posted by: amykissinger on 2008-03-28, 12:49:34

I feel the same way. I am having my baby shower (second one!!) and I feel so moochy and materialistic. The registering thing is sick!! (I did it though) I am so glad to hear that I am not the only one who feels this way. I am trying to remember that I always like to go to other people's personal parties, so I'm just going all out for mine. Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm sure someone will have one for you. I had 4 for my first baby. (Family, work, 2 different sets of friends-- talk about feeling like a mooch!! lol) 26 days until baby #2 is born!!

Posted by: Sindel on 2008-03-28, 13:06:51

I love parties = D I would totally throw you a party if I where your friend, Rock on!

Posted by: stellbell on 2008-03-28, 13:12:33

I love them. Its always fun to celebrate with friends.

Posted by: mitchell2020 on 2008-03-28, 20:52:58

To me 99% of parties/ showers are a waste of time, if I must go, I show up slightly late, press the flesh and depart without saying goodbye.