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Question: Why are atheists invited to a wedding shower and not to the wedding? perhaps greed of wanting a gift?

(Posted by: Sara on 2007-08-18 14:31:53)

Posted by: Beavis Christ on 2007-08-18, 14:35:03

I'd give them a Richard Dawkin's book for a gift.

Posted by: atheist on 2007-08-18, 14:35:07

If I can't go to the wedding, then I won't go to the shower. NO GIFT FOR YOU!

Posted by: NAN on 2007-08-18, 14:36:13

What religion are they? Some religions don't let anyone not in their religion come into their place of worship during a sacred time.

Posted by: ♥Sunny Girl♥ on 2007-08-18, 14:36:45

Wow! I absolutely love it when people stereotype!! It makes me so happy!

Posted by: players2069 on 2007-08-18, 14:36:46

Because I don't want you to spoil my wedding by you spouting your atheist views and start arguements with my guests.

Posted by: AdoreHim on 2007-08-18, 14:37:31

I would never invite someone to a shower that was not invited to the wedding. That is just plain rude. By the way, I had people that did not believe in God at both the wedding and shower.

Posted by: faithy_q_t_poo on 2007-08-18, 14:37:44

Umm....why do you not pose this question to the person who was rude and did this? It sounds as if you are implying that Christians as a whole practice this. There is not some vast wedding gift conspiracy led by the way right wing Evangelicals or anything....gimme a break.

Posted by: unsilenced lamb on 2007-08-18, 14:38:12

What makes you think that their Atheism is the reason?....sometimes with limited funds and space, a person wants as many to be involved in part of the celebration, but has to limit attendance at the ceremony or reception. I haved worked many weddings, and invitations can be complecated.

Posted by: Dellow on 2007-08-18, 14:38:12

Then again we Atheist are the lucky ones, we are not waisting out time and resources on imaginary gods. Be good be nice.

Posted by: robin s on 2007-08-18, 14:38:25

Weddings themselves are generally considered a spiritual experience that atheists may not enjoy. However, the shower is a celebration of the bride's happiness which hasn't got much to do with the spiritual aspect and would be more enjoyable for the non-religious friend. I would think it is considerate of the bride not to make the atheist put up with the ritualistic stuff of the wedding itself.

Posted by: Brent Y on 2007-08-18, 14:40:05

Could be. But, OTOH, as I've worked in the industry for 21 years, I know there are three other possible reasons. First, sometimes churches, especially old ones, are too small to accomodate all the guests the B &G want at the party. Second, if they know you are atheists and respect you, and know their minister is one of those who turns weddings into sermons, they might be trying to spare you. Finally, along the same lines, the wedding might be religious because a parent - usually the one paying the bill - insisted on it, but the couple might invite only relatives there because they know their friends would hate it. This was actually the case for my first wedding (1975), where her Mom insisted on a church wedding. Only the two of us, her parents, and my parents were at the wedding; the party was much bigger!

Posted by: Eyeno on 2007-08-18, 14:40:42

Ma'am, Most weddings are in a church. Since atheist do not believe in God, then as a jester of kindness, they are not invited to keep them from being uncomfortable in a Christian/ Islamic/ Buddist or whatever kind of church. Even a Wiccan wedding worships a god, their god satan, so why would the atheist want to be in a situation where they are uncomfortable?

Posted by: aural margin on 2007-08-18, 14:41:26

Are you sure it is because you (I assume this happened to you) are an athiest? Many people choose to have a small wedding ceremony, whether religious or not. Also, are the bride and groom the people hosting the shower? If not, perhaps the host him/ herself is inviting you so that you can contribute to the social and secular festivities often held in recognition of new marriages.

Posted by: Trentino S on 2007-08-18, 14:41:34

Atheists do not believe in God. The wedding shower is a celebration of a marriage. A wedding is to people being almost combined by the hearts under the power of God, which is my view. Since Atheists do not believe in God why should they come to something they do not choose to believe.

Posted by: Bettee62 on 2007-08-18, 14:41:49

NOBODY SHOULD BE INVITED TO A SHOWER AND NOT THE WEDDING THE PERSON INVITED CAN DECIDE IF HE OR SHE WANTS TO ATTEND THE WEDDING

Posted by: yahweh_is_the_lord on 2007-08-18, 14:51:53

I find it absolutely hilarious, that you think Atheists are "NEVER " invited to weddings. So, let me ask you this .... Does that mean that at an Atheists wedding, the guest list consists of Theists; while the wedding show if for their Atheist friends only? Because that is exactly what your question is implying.

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