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Question: Do peopel really get offended if you donate to charity instead of traditional wedding favors?

(Posted by: Hoann on 2008-07-21 13:45:09)

After comments made about a previous question i decided to ask if charity favors bother people or if doing the dollar dance but donating the money to charity might make my guest still upset. I know people seem to despise the dollar dance which i dont completely understand but to be angry about charity just doesnt make sense to me. Why not give back on my special day? Just to correct. The money for the favors is ours to begin with not our guest we try to help out in any way we can as students we should. Besides regular favors just go to wast bubbles and cheap picture frames just go to waste and there will be an announcement made saying exactly where the dance money is going. I dont think the dollar dance says that your hard up for cash like people have said. and the guest do have a choice. We dont want to trick anyone in any way.

Posted by: tagsmommy32 on 2008-07-21, 13:50:52

I didn't see your first question but I am assuming that it is YOUR wedding. So you can do whatever you want. And others are always going to be angry about something. You can't please everyone so on YOUR day please yourself. If using your wedding as a reason to give money to charity makes you feel good, then do it.

Posted by: teacupn on 2008-07-21, 13:55:19

Because it is bad form, even though your intentions and heart are good and in the right place, this is the wrong time. Weddings are NOT fund raisers, neither for you and your groom, nor for charity. Gift cards and money given as a gift is intended only for you and your groom. If they had wanted to give it to charity they would have, and probably wouldnn't have given as much, in addition, people like to choose the charities they support before they give. Money trees are just plain, vulgar and greedy. They say, "Yes, I know you brought a gift for us, but could you give us more of your hard earned money? " It's really a crude practice to milk the wedding guests and should be stopped. If you really want to help society, as a couple, work for Habitat for Humanity, serve in a Homeless shelter, spend time teaching someone to read. There are countless ways to help give back, just check local volunteer ads and dive in. Congratulations on the wedding and good luck.

Posted by: Omamico on 2008-07-21, 21:58:04

I think it might be more appropriate to tell your guests that in lieu of wedding gifts. donations could be made to a selection of charities (which you would name).

Posted by: Mary b on 2008-07-23, 12:35:29

Why not make a little "you gave " type thank you card for each guest that participates and a book or paper for them to sign that gets passed along to the charity with the money,you can make cards for pennies on a home printer with your names and dates etc,That way they still get a little keepsake,you get to donate,they get recognized for their effort and everyones happy,Like for the dollar dance it would be great